Saturday, February 20, 2010

Woods now needs to walk the walk


I’m not sure what some people expected from Tiger Woods yesterday during his public apology (video here). I’ve heard analysts break down all of his words and his body language. Some believe he was sincere; some think the speech was too scripted and not from the heart.

Yada, yada, yada…

He can’t change the past, he can only affect the future and hopefully in a better way for his wife, his family, friends, colleagues on tour, fans and business partners.

For now, all we have are those words to decode and body language to review and rewind like an ipod stuck on replay.

What a waste of time!

I don’t really care what Tiger said. I don’t really care about his teary eyes. I don’t really care if he read most of the speech.

Tiger pointed out that even his wife Elin will not accept words as an apology.

His behavior over time will become his apology to her.

His behavior will determine his sincerity and decode his body language.

And that’s what I care about!

Hopefully that’s what the Ravens’ new wide receiver Donte Stallworth cares about too.

You know athletes in general have an extreme sense of entitlement – not all of them but many do and the majority of the upper echelon athletes clearly do. In some ways they can’t help it because in this day and age when athletes are recruited at grade school levels, they are constantly coddled and catered to. It becomes a way of life for many of them.

Yesterday Woods admitted that he is one such athlete.

“I convinced myself that normal rules don’t apply [to me].

“I felt I was entitled.”

The first part of correcting a problem is admitting the problem exists. Woods is on his way.

If you take his words at face value his achievements thus far on the golf course and in the business community aren’t important, at least for now.

“It’s not what you achieve in life that matters but what you overcome.”

Unfortunately for Woods the challenges ahead aren’t slippery greens or thick first cuts just inches from the fairway. Those challenges he can tackle in the NOW. His challenges ahead will take time and he needs to understand that there’s a difference between letting things happen and making things happen.

Hopefully he’ll manage the difference.

And hopefully the apologies will come in the form his wife prefers.

4 comments :

Harryos29 said...

FEB 20th Harry OS 29
.. IMHO, the BILLIONARE .."TIGER WOODS"..can say all he wants; I'm a forgiving person, and I believe in second chances (re; Dante Stallworth)... But Tiger as the Sailors would say..."had a woman in every port"...
...I'm not sure if ELIN will take him back ...EVER???
That is between Tiger and Elin. Personally, I'm not a BIG GOLF fan, maybe its because I can't putt. But that is another story.
.. Tiger did what NIXON should have done, Immediately after WATERGATE. Americans are forgiving people...and Tiger will get through this...but its going to take time and it will not be easy to deal with the detractors who will inevitablly be in the gallery when he returns to the tournaments.
... I wish him all the best, and Hope that he can slow down a bit. I'd give a million dollars for just a piece of Tigers LIBIDO!!!!

Anonymous said...

I feel sorry for the guy and his wife and family. They should just get divorced amicably with a nice hefty settlement, and move on. He's not Warren Beatty or Wilt Chamberlain or even Michael Jordan in the cad arena, and now he's going to try to live suppressing that which cannot be suppressed in some people. His wife, on the other hand, will never trust him again (how could she?), and they'll both live in misery for whatever time they remain together.

Tiger's actions, as reprehensible as they are because he's married, are no different from Derek Jeter or your average MLB or NBA player. The mistake he made was getting married. He might mature and grow out of it as he gets older or finds someone he truly loves, but the fruits of that which he has tasted cannot be turned off like a light switch.

His well being and the well being of his family should be just to move on and enjoy life and stop trying to make a change that will only make everyone involved miserable.

Jerry B said...

Always sad to see an icon fall from grace, particularly one with as much mass appeal as Tiger "had"! As someone noted recently, the media, PGA and sponsors contributed to turning a gifted golfer into a bigger than life image that, by his own actions and admission, he couldn't live up to. In the final analysis, this gifted golfer proved all too human after all! As for his "apology", less scripting would have been preferable and could have been summerized in a sincere sentence or two. It will be interesting to see how galleries treat him when he returns to golf and whether or not his "human tragedy" will affect his game. But, one fact seems certain: Tiger may regain his form on the golf course, and, hopefully, successfully repair the damage he inflicted on his family, but his image as an icon is tarnished.......forever!

Anonymous said...

lol... nice settlement, she saw money signs in his eyes.